Every individual will eventually expertise the loss of life of a liked one. Mother and father, siblings, kids or pals are, for a interval, part of our universe. Inside a lifetime, one might expertise the loss of life of one other and, consequently, a robust feeling of disappointment and grief.
However what if I inform you that someplace not way back (about 2000 years in the past), on the land the place I used to be born, there was a civilization of people who believed loss of life have to be celebrated and honored as a sacred occasion. The Dacians (historic ancestors of Romanians), as they had been known as on the time, had been led and taught by their religious chief Zalmoxis, to imagine that loss of life is one thing to not be feared however reasonably, to be appreciated.
On account of this perception, they turned fearless troopers within the warfare with the Roman Empire and died fortunately, with a smile on their face. They’ve been recorded by the Greek historian Herodotus as being probably the most fearless troopers of that point period.
On a distinct continent, in Tibet, the Buddhists strongly imagine even immediately, in life after life and the reincarnation chain. Not solely do they not imagine in grief, however additionally they educate folks all over the world the way to die gracefully. They imagine that the following lifetime is affected by the situation by which loss of life was skilled on the finish of this lifetime. A loss of life with no regrets and peace will guarantee the following lifetime receives the wholesome premises of a recent begin. Grief comes as the results of a loss (normally an individual, but it surely may also be the lack of a pet or, in some instances, even a cloth merchandise).
In actuality, the loss we’re experiencing is simply an phantasm as we’re born and die bare. Every thing we expertise as ‘having’ is simply a candy however short-lived phantasm.
Grief Levels
Denial
Normally, denial follows shock. The thoughts constructs a parallel actuality to briefly regulate to the narrative’s circumstances. This normally leads to an imbalance all through the physique, together with the guts Dantian. This means that though our hearts are unable to acknowledge what is going on, our minds understand it. The center and higher Dantian are out of equilibrium.
We’re basically restricted to patiently awaiting this second to go at this level.
Cultivation observe
Coronary heart Qi Gong is the observe of uniting with the upper Dantian qi and cultivating gratitude. Train with a triple burner to harmonize the chi and permit it to move by way of the complete Dantian. (Dantian is a area of vitality particular to Qi Gong observe, to not be mistaken with chakra programs.)
Anger
After overcoming denial, the hearth aspect of the guts is exhausted, which impacts the wooden aspect of the liver and leads to the manifestation of rage. Anger originates and ends within the liver.
Cultivation observe
Liver Qi Gong along with a rigorous liver detox and a sleep remedy routine. The best form of meditation is sleep, however in case you observe usually, you gained’t want as a lot sleep to get by way of this part.
Bargaining
We start negotiating our psychological states with the surface world when our anger begins to subside. We start condemning every little thing and everybody that approaches us. In an try and heal, we search for solutions in karma, household, trigger and impact, and even God. Making up justifications is extra of a psychological diversion from the circumstances by developing with logical justifications.
Cultivation Observe
Kidney Qi Gong routine. Since it’s extra of an inside battle that prompts the adrenals’ antimissile mechanism, that is the realm of the kidneys (the water aspect).
Despair
Most emotional intelligence consultants agree that that is the longest and most intense stage of grief.
It’s the most excruciating and tough to get by way of. That is the part the place despair turns into insupportable and impacts the intestines and lungs. We cease respiratory deeply and don’t obtain sufficient oxygen to let the physique’s grief chi to flow into.
Cultivation Train
Lungs/Spleen Qi Gong
At this level, we concentrate on utilizing sure respiratory strategies to assist the feelings move. The routines must be carried out no less than a pair instances a day with the intention to achieve success.
To stimulate the spleen, one should floor themselves. Strolling barefoot on the earth or submerging ourselves within the sea for an prolonged time period are two practices that assist in reestablishing spleen vitality and assist us obtain vitality steadiness.
Acceptance
Being on this state is my favourite as a result of it’s one of the best ways to fight any undesirable emotions. We’re ready to face each the nice and the evil on this planet after we embrace no matter comes our means. The snow will soften, the rain will cease, the wind will reduce, and the storm will go. Every thing is a cycle with a begin and an finish. It turns into less complicated to just accept each the worst and the best with the identical fortitude and acceptance if we all know the place we’re within the cycle.
Cultivation Observe
We advise forging the bodily physique with Yang exercises as we acquire power. 5 Components Qi Gong and cardiovascular workouts of any variety, however with warning in order to not damage oneself.
Emotional Health
The Ki Prepare Technique makes use of common strategies of cultivation to realize vitality effectivity. We train to organize ourselves for any eventuality. We predict that power comes from a course of reasonably than from a one-time repair.
Fixing shouldn’t be the purpose. It’s all about prevention. It’s by no means too late to start out enhancing your self, no matter age.
We wish to imagine within the human superpowers. We love the true human spirit.
