Ah, love! Is there another matter that evokes songs, poems, books and different inventive works greater than love? Such a “rabbit gap” of a subject, identical to in Alice in Wonderland, particularly when involving spirituality.
When one asks the query, “What’s God?” the reply can rightly be given as, “God is LOVE.” It’s stated additionally that God is infinite, in each atom of creation, and that universe itself is comprised of Love. Nicely, no marvel there are such a lot of songs written about it!
One thing tells me, nevertheless, that you’re not studying this since you want to enter right into a philosophical discourse on the character of the universe. Maybe although, you desire to a dialogue that is a little more sensible. Nicely, good — as a result of as huge as the subject of affection and relationships is, there is a really sensible aspect to them. It could certainly be enjoyable to fantasize about discovering your one real love whereas launched into a magical quest to slay dragons, however there are pragmatic steps that one can take to manifest a non secular accomplice and relationship in the true world.
After I got here onto the non secular path I used to be a single man in my 20s. I had already been open to discovering a really perfect life accomplice however solely had a number of arduous classes and failed relationships to indicate for my efforts. I knew, nevertheless, that my quest for Self-realization was extra essential than the rest and that solely a accomplice who shared my non secular aspirations might fulfill this need. I started this quest in earnest by asking for some recommendation.
Discovering the One
Recommendation on discovering a mate can sometimes contain the what-to-look-for selection, however the steering I obtained has helped me to this present day, even in different areas of my life. After I requested my non secular mentor what to do, she requested, “What do you think about can be completely different in your life when this need is fulfilled?” This query gave me pause. I actually needed to assume arduous about it. I imply… I’d stay “fortunately ever after,” proper? Discovering the appropriate accomplice was one thing I had wished for thus lengthy however I noticed I had by no means thought to query the longing in that means.
I started to see the aim behind that query. I couldn’t have or ask for a distinct sort of life if I used to be not prepared to take motion and make some modifications NOW. One other query got here logically to me: “So what might you be doing NOW to manifest these issues in your life that you’re asking for?” I used to be asking for somebody to like – a non secular accomplice. I’d have somebody to like in my life however I wanted to do some issues in a different way to carry that about. I rapidly realized that there are many individuals to present like to NOW. After all, it wouldn’t be precisely the identical because the romantic love I sought, however on an impersonal degree, I’d be training channeling God’s love for His youngsters. Isn’t that the best expression of affection anyway?
I wished a accomplice who was good for me in a number of methods and I understood that I wanted to broaden and rework myself into a really perfect accomplice for her as properly. I set about making a life for myself that would come with, and make room for, all the advantages I might think about having as soon as I discovered my best accomplice. After I felt prepared, I trusted that the Divine Mom would introduce me to her.
I did actually, meet my accomplice a number of years later. I might see then how each “failed” try to search out her was really an essential step and lesson that made me a greater man and higher accomplice for her. After I checked out a number of the different difficult areas of my life, I used to be additionally in a position to see the identical steps and patterns.
Magnetism Issues
I rapidly realized that there was one other, deeper reality behind that follow-up query, a profound precept that I used to be meant to extra totally perceive: magnetism. Yogananda stated that it’s the magnet of our coronary heart that pulls true soul mates and we improve our magnetism by the standard and amount of our power. I understood that if I used to be to draw a really perfect mate, I needed to improve my magnetism.
However how? Simply as a paper clip may be made right into a magnet by intentional contact with a powerful magnet, so can we improve our magnetism by divine contact with God, the supply of all power and energy. Deep meditation, chanting, training God’s presence, and different non secular practices all assist us improve our non secular magnetism. The extra we will discover our middle in God, the extra we discover out who we actually are as particular person human beings.
Each atom in creation is inextinguishably dowered with individuality. —Paramhansa Yogananda
Yogananda stated that each atom of creation is dowered with individuality. We’re every distinctive, but at our deepest middle, we’re all the identical in our need to like and be liked. Though our deepest needs for everlasting love can solely be fulfilled by means of union with the Divine, it’s completely dharmic to discover a mate for transferring towards fulfilling and expressing these divine needs inside this lifetime.
Now that I knew HOW to discover a companion and felt that I used to be doing all the pieces I might, in need of standing on a busy avenue nook as a strolling sandwich board: SOUL MATE WANTED, it was only a matter of ready and trusting. That is the a part of the method you hardly ever hear about. As a result of often, it’s boring — and arduous. It’s a bit like having a yearning for cucumbers and planting the backyard for them — you’re certain to get cucumbers and so they’re certain to be nice however you continue to should water the backyard, be affected person, and have religion and belief that Mom Nature will do her job and enable you out, earlier than the outcomes.
My Motion Steps
So, I waited. I trusted that Divine Mom would information me in all the pieces and the rest that wanted to occur.
- I saved up my every day meditation practices.
- I chanted each time I might.
- I practiced the presence of God utilizing any method that impressed me.
- I tuned into the standard of affection I wished to really feel for and from my life accomplice.
- I gave that high quality of affection to everybody I might in no matter type I might.
For this final one — whether or not it was a form gesture, a pleasant dialog or perhaps a smile whereas passing a stranger on the road, I did all that I might to tune into that power of affection in the beginning. I noticed that this love was not mine. I didn’t create it, I used to be merely performing as a channel for God’s like to share with others round me.
Excellent Imperfection
My efforts weren’t seamless and I did make a little bit of a mistake that I believe is a standard one. I believed that discovering “the one” could be an finish in itself. I believed that this particular particular person could be good for me and someway “full” me. I imply, discovering the proper particular person would, after all, make your complete life fortunately good and all your troubles would fade away right into a sea of romantic bliss! Marriage books had been about how you can handle all of the endless happiness that floods your being together with your good mate, proper? Nicely, not precisely. That’s a romantic delusion.
In actuality — on the earth of duality, each success attracts its reverse. That “dream job” could include a “nightmare boss,” or that new child you’ve been ready for could imply that you just lose all the single friendships you’ve loved and cultivated since center college. The checklist goes on, however you get the concept, to find your life accomplice, the precept of duality nonetheless applies. Your accomplice could certainly be lovely and fantastic but will even come into your life with their very own quirks and idiosyncrasies. They might certainly be most loving and serene, however from their forgetting a birthday or one thing else essential you may understand simply the other.
How, then, are we to narrate to nature’s duality and this eager for a mate? The nice ones information us to attempt to be even-minded within the face of loss or achieve – as all on this materials world is fleeting besides God. We will take into account, too, that irrespective of how lengthy we’re alive, irrespective of how lengthy we’re with our accomplice, the day will come after we are again within the astral world reflecting on our lives and all that we’ve discovered right here. What’s it, then, we wish to achieve – or assume we’ll be taught from the expertise of getting the proper mate on this lifetime?
Love Divine
That reply can be completely different for every particular person but when we’re critical, as properly, about our seek for God, then the will for a mate can be a subset of our need to know and discover God. It’s completely acceptable to ask God for a mate who will assist carry each of you nearer to Him in a relationship supporting one another’s non secular progress and improvement.
Contemplate that our needs generally transcend what we really assume we wish — like after I say I need a good chilly soda however what I really want is to be hydrated and nourished. After I lastly get the soda, it’s solely after it’s gone in three gulps and my abdomen feels humorous for the subsequent hour that I understand that wasn’t what I actually craved. On a deeper degree, God is aware of and watches the guts. It’s as much as us to belief that what’s actually greatest for us is best left to Him.
We’re all on a non secular path, whether or not we’re merely interested by non secular teachings and ideologies or sincerely dedicated to a specific path, educating and lifestyle. If the want for a non secular accomplice and relationship is robust for you, manifesting and fulfilling such needs begins with loving these round you, growing your magnetism and trusting that all the pieces that involves you is in your highest good.
We’re “dowered with individuality” however in relation to love, we’re all alike in the necessity to love and be liked. Could every day carry you nearer to discovering your coronary heart’s need. God Bless you.
Initially printed: February 18, 2020
